Identity

2026-06-25 · 6 min read

The Root and the Remedy

If you have been fighting the behaviour for years and losing, there is a reason. You are likely medicating something. And until that something is found and addressed, the behaviour will keep returning.

2026-06-23 · 5 min read

The Root of the Struggle: Why Many Men Can't Break Free From Addiction

I was addicted to pornography for over a decade. I am not saying that to shock you. I am saying it because if I skip past it, you will read what follows as theory. It is not theory.

2026-06-12 · 5 min read

I Used to Lie About Where I Was From

Whenever people wanted to demean us, they would call us "Nwa Abakaliki." The profiling was so deeply ingrained that I began to wish I was from somewhere else.

2026-06-11 · 5 min read

The Silent Weight: What a Carpool Argument Taught Me About Men's Mental Health

When you see a man raging on the road or arguing over something trivial, it is often not about that incident at all. It is transferred aggression from a heavy burden.

2026-06-04 · 10 min read

Should Boys Be Given Freedom to Choose Their Friends?

The environment a boy grows up in will largely determine the kind of friends he keeps. And the friends he keeps will largely determine the man he becomes.

2026-05-24 · 3 min read

The Boy Before the Man

If the boy is never properly formed, the man may spend the rest of his life bleeding on people who never wounded him.